Why Boundaries and Standards Create Safety for the Feminine in Relationships

If we want to wear the diamond of our hearts on our sleeve & bring our softness to connection, we’ve got to have clear AF standards and boundaries.
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As a woman with a LOT of feminine energy, I can say that having veryyyy damn clear standards and boundaries makes my world of relating so much more peaceful & empowering.
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Feeling protected by the calibre of our own boundary & standards upholding creates the SAFETY that our feminine needs for more of our softness to unfurl.
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The thing is, trying to obtain safety solely from outside ourselves is to play a losing game.
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Striving for impeccability with our boundaries around our heart creates a buffer of safety for our being to meet others from.
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When I know I’ve got myself and I’m not out-sourcing my safety to you, I can meet you from a place of self-containment. My feminine energy is held, and not leaky.
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Attempting to revealing our deep vulnerability without the protection of boundaries can become excruciating, and I would go as far to say masochistic.
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Why should our softest, most tender, trembling feminine aspects show up if she is not fervently & honourably protected from harm?
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Holding boundaries and standards around our worth & our heart is how our own inner masculine shows up for us.
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This is the moment when the father kneels down to the little girl inside of you and tells her:

“Baby, don’t you ever let someone treat you in a way that makes you feel sad. Your heart is the most precious diamond. You deserve the world.”
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We have to learn to be that father for ourselves.

(Princesses in the house, take a moment to breathe & maybe also writhe around with this one)
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I have spent *years* with this one.
We can’t out-source this job to anyone.
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The healing that being impeccable with our standards brings feels like a miracle when we have spent years in the emotional rollercoaster of not truly honouring our heart in relationship.
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I wish it for all of us.

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